The Meaning of April 12

Daphne Quirk
Here it goes.

-Today would have been my mother’s 64th birthday.
-Today is also the 30th anniversary of my mother’s death. I was 6 and my sister 10 when she died in a car accident.

-Today would have been the birthday of my sister-in-law, only a child when she died.

-Today is the birthday of my lovely and sweet hearted niece, Morgan. Thank goodness for her.

This day is… many things. My sister, sisters-in-law, my mother-in-law, my grandmother, my aunt, my husband. We all live in a sense of suspension on this day and we feel each other’s hearts no matter how far away we might be from each other. Sometimes we call each other, sometimes we can’t. Sometimes we visit gravesides, sometimes we can’t.

The gratitude I have for this life, can’t be explained. The opportunities all around. The beauty. Nature. All the people in every sort. Food. Wine. Fun. The sadness. The empathy. The pain. It shapes everything about who I am and the way I look upon the world.

I’ve tried to put it into words and I don’t know if you know what I mean. But you can’t understand me until you understand what April 12 is to me and family.


I am Wonder Woman

Wonder Woman

Every time we move, my husband breaks or greatly damages some piece of furniture. This time it was the bed frame (the metal kind). It wasn’t that he broke it when we moved, it just wasn’t set up right the first time, and when he tried to fix it, it got worse.

He’s a contractor so when something breaks, I tell him because he can fix it just as well as most repairmen can.

So last night I complained again that the bed frame is broken and he says, “So YOU handle it!” out of understandable frustration. I made up my mind to do just that.

Today I walked into a mattress store, bought one, loaded it up, got it home, set it up, made a fresh bed and will get an IMMATURE amount of joy in saying,
“I handled it.”

Sometimes he just needs to be reminded that I owned my own home and set of tools before we met. I am Wonder Woman.

Why It’s Awesome to be a Nerd

Wil Wheaton indulges a woman in his audience and records a video for her new daughter about why it’s awesome to be a nerd. This is just amazing.

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Kevin Breel: Confessions of a Depressed Comic at TEDxKids

Truth in the face of illness. Talking about what’s happening inside and how we feel, for real, makes us all stronger. It’s time to start talking about what’s really happening. It’s time to stop pretending.


Elyn Saks Perspective | Illuminating Mental Illness

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This is one of the most illuminating pieces I’ve ever experienced. I thought of how much potential is lost, the lives squandered, and unnecessary pain. I was struck by the concept that there are “people with schizophrenia, not schizophrenics”.

If you know of anyone with a severe mental illness, if you suffer yourself, please watch this. It’s 14 minutes long and some of it will make you uncomfortable but it will be worth it in the end. (I had to simply listen to much of it) This woman has a perspective on a life you many never hear again.

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Boys and Food


You never want to be in line for food AFTER the bus-full of high school athletes. Nothing like a group of kids (especially boys) to wipe out a restaurant, buffet, or refrigerator.

The Antidote





Antidote to Tech

The antidote to technology is nature.

Put your hands in the dirt.


Stand Up

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I have been told that I’m a political enigma. I rarely discuss politics because people get weird fast. I also don’t want to get into those conversations. If you know me, you know the subjects that fire me up – its really about supporting the underdog and doing what’s right.

But just look at my profile picture (taken from Facebook), equal rights for all citizens is imperative. Not sorta kinda the same rights but EQUAL. I hate the patriotic game of “you’re not a good American if” but truly this statement applies if you don’t completely support equal rights for all. Your religion or personal preference has no bearing on the rights of others. Period.

I hear some people wanted to know what I’m about. Now come at me and feel the fire. I will stand up all day over this.


Marriage Rights

My parents married in 1971, just 4 years after it became legal. I can’t believe that my parents would’ve been breaking the law to be married just a few years before!

Here’s to all the lovers. May you all (be allowed to) marry the one you love!!!

Interracial Marriage

On This Mother’s Day

On this lovely day, I wish all the mothers a wonderful day but I’m also thinking of those that are in a different head space:

-Those that have tried very hard but can’t have kids.
-Those that don’t want kids yet everyone keeps asking and pressuring.
-Those that don’t talk to their moms.
-Those that have lost their moms (I’m in this group).
-Those that are loving moms to furry children.
-Those that are stand in for moms yet don’t hold the official title.

I appreciate you and wish you a magnificent day too!